Maybe you had a great date.

Or you have been messaging constantly on a dating app.

Then suddenly it goes quiet.

No flirty message.

No funny gif.

No request for a second date.

You feel a bit sick in your stomach…..Is it over?

You know you shouldn’t really care that much, you’ve only just, met this person, but yet you do care.

Or rather, you would just like to know whats going on.

But now you feel stuck, you don’t know what to do.

Hours, turn into a day and may be even two and you still haven’t heard.

If you anxiously attach and you attach easily this scenario can set of all you activation systems and send you through a loop of craziness.

So you ask friends, family colleagues and scan the internet for what to do.

Which just leads you to a lot of opinions and no answer.

I’ve been there…It’s exhausting.

So what should you do?

You don’t want to come across as to clingy, or to be chasing or to be seen as low value but you would like to know what to do.

And whilst there is a school of thought that what we should really be thinking about is why you feel this attached, or like this person enough for their actions to affect you this much – which is something I’ll cover later.

For now we need an action plan.

It’s simple.

Send one text. Then do nothing else.

Not just a ‘Hi’ but maybe ‘Hi, how are you?’ or ‘How did the meeting go’

That type of message.

The purpose of this message is to show the other person that we still have an interest in being in contact with them, to give them one last chance if you like.

This does not mean that we will always have an interest in being in contact or dating them, but at this moment in time we do.

Then you do nothing.

Absolutely nothing.

Other than get on with your life.

If you are the type of person that will want to reach out to them again ( like I am) then delete their number.

They will get in touch with you if they want to.

And if they don’t then it was not meant to be.

You can move on with your life.

It may be hard to do this.

But it their response – whether they respond or don’t respond is their answer.

It may not be the result you want.

I’ll be back next week and we can start to look at why we care so much when they don’t text back.

Have a great week